How many of us never meet the person with whom we could be happy? How many of us limit our romantic choice to the people who happen to wash up on our shore? In Why Mr Right Can’t Find You, J.M. Kearns, Ph. D., shows that finding true love can be a proactive adventure. In chapters like How Men See Women, The Underrated Chance Encounter, and The Truth About Bars, J.M. Kearns lays bare the surprising vulnerabilities of the single male, and the power they confer on women. Men, he explains, are not shallow, not the enemy, and not aliens from Mars. In fact, the good man who is searching for you is your greatest ally, and Kearns shows you exactly how to take advantage of that fact. In the process he overturns the classic dating myths – that destiny chose the "one and only" man for you, that baggage is bad, that all men prefer the same body type – and solves the fascinating riddle of compatibility, with a hilarious and practical guide to the factors that make two people click, illustrated with real-life vignettes straight from the dating trenches. Finally, in a full online dating section, Kearns (who met his partner online) gives clear, simple advice on sites, photo sets, matchmaking, body issues, and that crucial first meeting.

Review

"If you’ve been on the lookout for ages but still haven’t found The One, this is for you...you’ll be in the arms of your true love in no time!"
—OK! Magazine

"A literary MRI of the male brain."
—Georgie Banks, CBC News Viewpoint.

"Kearns insists it’s really not difficult to direct the right man to you, whether it’s online, someone you already know, or a total stranger. So read this, sit back and wait for the offers to pour in... Kearns says we should break the mentality of ‘acceptable’ places and realize ‘any time is a good time to meet Mr. Right.’ And sadly, men can’t read our minds to establish our interest, so direct him to you."
—Cosmopolitan-UK

User Ratings and Reviews

4 Stars If you believe he's already out there... First of all, I am a guy. So, why did I get a copy of this book? The catchy title caught my eye when I was at the library, & well... the paragraphs I glanced through seemed interesting enough - & so I borrowed it home.

The main premise of Kearns's argument is his belief that there's no need to change yourself to find someone - Mr Right is already out there & he loves you just the way you are (no matter how obnoxious or unlovable). He's just waiting to be discovered (e.g. at nice bars & pubs, or at the neighbourhood library etc) & therefore, your main job is to search the correct places & make yourself searchable! I do have some difficulty believing that this applies to every single single woman on Earth. (Perhaps I am not optimistic enough.)

Another thing: the cultural aspect. Kearns encourages the single woman to seek out & approach potential guys. This may not be applicable to certain cultures (or men) & may backfire terribly in certain places.

Otherwise, it's a gentle read which can be completed within a day.

5 Stars A Fun, Funny Read That Will Help Females from 15 to 85 Feel Good and In The Process, Most Likely, End Up With The Guy For Them An interesting male perspective that gives women of all ages hope and concrete reasons while Mr. Right is out there and that you have to pay attention and notice if he walks into your life.

Oprah liked this book and so did a slew of other reviewers! http://www.whymrright.com/

I've given this book as a gift to a bunch of my single friends and it's such a hit that I keep a stack in my house now to wrap and hand-out at holidays and birthdays -- makes me look like I'm a very thoughtful friend!

J.M. Kearns has a novel out, Ex-Cottagers In Love that I look forward to reading.

1 Star Ugh Let me sum this book up for you. Accoring to the author, you should hang out in "desireable" bars alone to meet men and subscibe to online dating site. Dang! if it was that easy, you wouldn't need this silly book. Oh yes, the the author basically says you shouldn't be picky. Don't buy this book for daing advice

4 Stars It's always good to get a different perspective... ... and that's what this book gives. Self-awareness combined with these different ideas are the key.

5 Stars Suprising. Yes, after reading this, I was suprised. Of course you have to be available and that means putting yourself out there more. This book takes that lesson and expounds on it. It's about really, really opening yourself up to new experiences. I thought the message in this book was brillant. I also quite liked He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys.